I want to escape my past. I'm 18, female, still living with my parents. My father is abusive. I just want to run away and never be found. What steps do I have to take to change my identity and disappear without a trace?How can I change my identity?
I know this is probably not the answer you are looking for but are you sure running away from your problems is the best idea? I understand that you want to leave and being 18 are free to do so but I dont think changing your identity is the best way to go about it. Is there anyone you can talk to or live with? Your parents cannot make you stay at home, if you want to leave you can, but if I were you I would think seriously about changing your whole identity and running away instead of facing your problems. I dont want this to sound patronising and I dont know exactly what your going through but running away is not the answer.How can I change my identity?
since you're old enough to leave legally..there must be some other adult you know who will let you stay with them for now... then when you are ready, just move to another city and apply for financial help at that city's temporary assistance center....they might also help you get a job ...tell them you need to use a new name for safety reasons.How can I change my identity?
If you are 18, then you are an adult. Just hit the road and don't look back. That said, you do need a plan...and money. Where are you going, job, place to live etc. Good luck*How can I change my identity?
'Before' you were not of age.
Now you are.
Just move.
You do not have to divulge your new address
But, remember that you will still take YOU with you.
How can I change my identity?
Please don't do that to your mother. Do you have a job. Ask your mother to help you to move out. Tell her how you feel. Go to Communicare or whatever it is in your neighborhood...tell them how you feel and that you need help. You are beautiful being who you are.How can I change my identity?
You could change your name by deed poll, but your birth name remains on your birth certificate which you would need if you wanted to get a passport say, but the name you changed to by deed poll would be on the passport. (if that makes sense)
You would need to move to another area, which would require money to get a flat or whatever (not cheap) and get a job and build a new life.
Its going to be hard, to get up and just vanish is not going to be easy, think about your safety. there are a lot of nasty b*****ds out there who prey on young women like yourself who end up in that situation.
Please be careful, see if you can get a friend to help you through these troubled times, maybe go live with someone you know, no-one can touch you or hurt you, your 18 and have the full weight of the law behind you. If anyone tries to hurt you call the police and tell them the situation.
I feel for you, i hope everything works out, just give it time, stay positive (if you can) and set goals, DONT do anything hasty.
Take care.How can I change my identity?
Remember the old McCartney song %26quot;She's Leaving Home%26quot;?.
This might seem obvious, but it needs to be said.
Where do you intend running to? If it is into the void, as a young man you might sometimes get away with it. As a young women, where you end up might well be scarier than what you left behind.
So you need to prepare this as thoroughly as the change of identity.
First thing. Make a list of all known relatives and friends of your parents and where they live. Clearly these are places to avoid.
Next thing, make a list of your close friends that you can trust with your life, and who can offer you a floor to sleep on, good advice and companionship during the first few weeks when you will be disorientated and homesick. Where do they live? Is the sort of place you would like to move to?
If that list is not adequate, then you need to make some more friends. Above all, those you can trust and escape from to somewhere else if things do not work out. Otherwise you could just as easily end up working for nothing in a brothel.
As soon as you have changed your name as suggested by Social Science Lady on your other question, you can set about finding a job to support yourself.
If you are a Muslim, then avoid any areas within reach of any Islamic community. This may mean therefore exploring the countryside rather than risking the cities. All sorts of uncles and brothers would be hunting for you as a form of personal jihad.
When you have made all the necessary preparations, you leave a note for your parents saying you have gone and don't come looking for me. Send them an untraceable postcard or email message from time to time to say you are OK. The reason for doing this is not out of respect for them. If you don't, their next step is to call the police, and they will be out hunting for you as a Missing Person.
A less drastic alternative is simply to apply for a college place as far from home as you can. For example, if you are British, consider Flinders University in Adelaide, South Australia. Click on the Aussie flag below and ask a question there how to go about it. If you can't run to that maybe somewhere like Lampeter in Wales or Aberdeen in Scotland are suitably difficult to get to. It would cost them a fortune to come and visit you, and they probably wouldn't bother. Three months in college will give you enough time to find a holiday job locally, then you needn't come home then either. When you finish at college, you'll have plenty enough life skills and experience to settle anywhere in the world you wish.
Good luck and God be with you!How can I change my identity?
This is the computer age, no one can realistically disappear without trace. At 18 you are legally an adult and can leave home any time you want to, your parents cannot stop you. Once you are away from home if your father, for instance, kept harassing you just have a word with the police and he can be legally warned off.
