It's a question of civil rights and a name change is a statement of posession. When slaves were brought to America and sold to people, their names were changed to reflect their owner's names. When girls were traded from fathers to husbands in exchange for some land and a cow, their names were changes to indicate the transfer of ownership. You are an individual, a citizen, a voter, a worker, and a property owner, and there's no reason to sacrifice your own identity because of marriage. Marriage is a union and a partnership, not a bill of sale. Being a family unit does not make two people into one entity.
And no, I'm not a bitter feminist. I've been happily married for 8 years, and my husband and I are both satisfied with the names we were born with :)How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Your husband sounds like a bully, he has no right to ask you to change your name if you don't wish to do it. People should only do it out of choice if they think will be more convient to have the same name as their children. But no one has a right to make you change it.
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How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?I really don't understand why any man should worry about what his wife's surname is. You should concentrate what matters in your relationship like getting along on a daily basis and building a life together.I have no idea what names have to do with this.
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How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?Take your maiden name as your middle name and his as your last or vice versa.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Why wouldn't you want to, it is the first sign of unity. It's the norm for a reason.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Do what you want, next you can burn your bra.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Keep your name. While we have a changing culture, there is no reason that you should have to change your name if you don't want to. Your husband should focus on more important things than nitpicking about it. I mean, think about it. Was he going to hyphenate his name as well? I'll bet not.
Some women keep their name for professional reasons as well. My sister kept her maiden name for her first marriage. Since she can no longer work, when she remarried, she changed her name.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
just tell him the reason why you only want your own last name. just that it's nothing personal.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Well I agree with you. No you shouldn't have to change your name or need his permission to either. Latin people don't change their name. THey have 2 last names, fathers then mothers. When they (women) get married, they drop the mothers, and add the husbands.
Single= You Smith Arnold
MArried= You Smith de los husbands name here
Not needing his name is not a rejection of him, but a reinforcement of your own identity. I hope he understands.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
No not at all. I can understand that maybe he will feel more like a %26quot;family%26quot; if you change it, but that really shouldn't be the case...you should be a family no matter what name you have! He doesn't have to change his name, so why should you? That's just a norm as well. All that matters is that you love him and treat him well.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
It is the cultural norm in some places. But your identity doesn't change because your last name does. My husband felt the same way. It is difficult to convince someone to keep your maiden name because a lot of men pictured their wife to have the same last name as themself. Hyphenating is the only compromise that comes to my mind but i won't tell you to %26quot;stick to your guns%26quot; either. At the same time, you have a right to do what makes you happy.
Honestly you might not convince him to keep your maiden name but if he truely loves you, he'll respect what you want.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
You did change your identity, you are no longer your father's %26quot;child%26quot;, you are now a man's %26quot;wife%26quot;. You are a grown woman who has chosen this man as a life partner, therefore that is part of your %26quot;new%26quot; identity. You should be honored to take his name. Not to mention, you sort of lied to him. If there was a part of you, even the smallest one that did not want to take his name, you should have told him. That is a big deal, and this should have been talked about in great detail before you got married. You shouldn't go back on what you agreed to. He was compromising with you then and you should stick to it, instead of going back on your word. He did his part by compromising, now do yours!!How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
You have a right to keep you maiden name. I would accept the decision, as you do not lose your identity when you marryHow can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
That is a tough one. But he married a head-strong woman so he should not be upset. Here is a counter-proposal to try on him: both of you should take his middle name as your last names. This makes you equals in the new identity thing. If he is reluctant to leave his identity for a new one with you...it shows he understands, so he should not ask you to change yours. What's in a name? Something inexplicable, something magical - our heritage, our family, our entire past. Women are not spirited away like a piece of property anymore and we also have careers and reputations based on our names since we are in the workworld. Back when everyone changed their names, women also were not expected to work outside the home. New world, new rules.
However, if you intend to have kids, you need to think about how confusing that could get, even though it is common. That is why I changed my name. I was young and new in my career as well. So I changed my name, but it did make me grieve for a while - it hurt and I cannot really explain why, it felt like running away from home or something and not going back.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
I'm one of those lucky women whose husband didn't have an issue with me retaining my last name. Your situation is compounded by the fact that you agreed to hyphenate the two names before you married, then changed your mind. While I understand your feelings, it wasn't fair to your husband because you had an agreement with him already. It's a little unfair to raise the issue after the fact.
I like the idea of making your maiden name your married name. And, if you have children will they have your husband's name or will this come up again?
Also, you both need to find a way to make peace with this situation pretty quickly. Compared to what life may hand you down the road, is it really worth the drama. Don't let this become a control issue. Work it out; find out, then truly understand, why a name means so much to you.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
Obviously, this is something that should have been resolved before you married. But, you did kind of resolve it before you married, and now you檙e trying to back out of it. When you agreed to hyphenate your name, you obviously knew THEN that it would make the name long and difficult to pronounce, so trying to use that argument now as a reason not to hyphenate it is ridiculous. Although, personally, I'm not a big proponent of hyphenated names, for exactly the reasons you gave, but the point is *you agree to it*
I didn檛 change my name when I married either, because my first name and hubby檚 last name were too similar and it would have been the equivalent of having a name like Donald McDonald. BUT, hubby was fine with me keeping my maiden name, and if he hadn檛 been okay with it, I would have changed my name simply out of respect to his wishes. Changing your name does not change who you are.How can I convince my husband to let me keep my maiden name?
You are probably making him feel, without meaning to, that his name is not good enough for you.
